Two of the grandmothers still live in the "family house" on their own in the same city that some of their children still live in. In both situations their driving is extremely limited so they are home a lot. Both have younger neighbors who have known them for many years and are very helpful. However, they both get lonely and depend on their TV's a great deal. Both are mentally sharp and able to care for themselves, however their tech skills are limited. One uses the internet, which for her is a great connection to the world.
The third grandmother is equally as sharp as the others but has more physical limitations, uses a walker, and has live-in care. She is considerably more socially active then the others because she has someone to drive her where she wants to go. She is a card player, but limited in tech skills. She lives in the home that she and her husband bought later in life and travels to a warmer climate with her helpers when cold weather sets in. The home is in a very desirable location and has a swimming pool, so while she has no family living in the area, the family is eager to visit.
And then there is me, in a senior living retirement community. I think my choice is the best, but the three of them would probably all disagree with me. I am writing this as a comment, not a judgement call.
Isn't it weird that all three of us grandmothers to nine kids lost our husbands the same year?